June 21, 2020 at 2:00pm PM EDT
To my ex-husband:
Both of us know we don’t belong together any longer. But there was a time when we did. Back then, all I could see was you, our future, lots of children, and a house in the country. I got all of that — we got all of that — and then some. Then, our marriage fell to pieces and broke us both wide open. But the love we had, the kids we had, the life we had will forever be a part of us.
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When we decided to go our separate ways, it was the hardest decision we’ve both had to make. We didn’t handle it perfectly; in fact, we hurt each other, sometimes deliberately and sometimes by mistake. But we made it through to the other side.
I didn’t always know what the future would bring for us, but I did know one thing for sure: that you would always put our children first. Letting them down is not an option for you, and no matter what we were going through, you made sure they were OK.
I know you brush off Father’s Day like it’s not a big deal, and I know your expectations are pretty low. But you deserve to be celebrated — this year more than ever. And I will see to it that you are. I know being a divorced dad of three kids is a huge job, and I know there are times when you don’t feel like you can keep up. But somehow, you always mange to give them what they need.
And just because we are no longer married, it doesn’t make you any less a father. In fact, you are more to them now. Because when they are with you, you are the father and mother. You always have to be “on,” and you truly make use of your time with them because you no longer get to see them every day. You make your time count.
I want our kids to see that, and I want them to recognize all you do for them. But I don’t think it’s fair to leave Father’s Day solely up to them. I want them to see me participate in making this day feel special for you because I value the relationship you have with all three of them more than you know. And for me, helping them celebrate you on Father’s Day is my way of letting them know that even though we aren’t married anymore, Father’s Day is still special to me too. Because without you, I wouldn’t have these three treasures.
You became their father when I became their mother, and you’ve felt all the feelings and emotions I did. And we will always have that. We don’t have to live under the same roof or be best friends to have that together. Our children are a part of you, and you are part of them, and that will never change. Every time I look at them, I see you in them, and I think, We did that. We made them. I will never not have warm feelings about that fact, no matter what you and I go through.
I know with all my being that despite the fact that we aren’t in love anymore, you were the man who was supposed to father my children. I’ve never doubted that, not even for a moment. And it’s important that our kids know I feel that way — and that they will always be a product of our love.
Just because their parents aren’t married any longer, it doesn’t mean these kids didn’t come from a beautiful place.
Happy Father’s Day.
A version of this story was originally published in June 2019.
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Sometimes there is a lack of understanding in between us in a relationship which can easily break us and our relationship apart. Most of the relationship breaks because we choose the wrong person in your life. The main problem with us is that we judge someone by the outer beauty and don’t bother to notice on the inner side of a person. But as day’s passes by, we get know that the person is not a match. But at the end, you end up remembering him or her no
matter how far you are from him or her. Remembering your ex-husband on Father’s day can be a great gesture to your kids. If you feel nervous and don’t know what to do on that day, try reading Father day Quotes from ex-wife on this article. You may end up having a nice evening. You will get here Happy Fathers Day Wishes Messages from ex-wife for the ex-husband. Sometimes it’s happened mistakenly and we miss them after divorce.
Happy Father’s Day From Ex-Wife for Ex-Husband Quotes Wishes Messages
“We are no longer husband and wife but no matter how far we grow apart,
I will always thank you for being a good father to my children from the start.”Happy Fathers Day To My Ex-Husband
~ Your Ex-wife
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“Our divorce was like a raging rapid which has separated us.
But let us try to build a bridge which allows our children to cross over to both sides any time they want.”Happy Father’s Day Ex-Hubby
Our children created our bond that cannot be broken. After our breakup, there were a lot of words I left unspoken.
You’re an amazing father, and I hope you find the perfect mate.Happy Fathers Day Ex Husband
“We are no longer together but we will always stay together for our children…. Wishing a Happy Father’s Day to my dearest ex Husband who makes the best dad in this world.”
“It is not important that we are no longer a couple but it is very important that have fulfilled all your duties as a good father towards our children…. Happy Father’s Day.”
We may not love each other anymore or treat each other respect but I am relieved that your care and blessings are still on my kids. I wish you become the best father or the father of their dreams for them. Have a great fathers day celebration, ex-husband!
May the sweeter than sugar bond between you and your kids remain intact till the end and we all live a jovial life together. Keep loving our kids and always encourage them. Happy fathers day to my ex-husband!
You never had my respect as a husband but the way you take care of kids amazingly, you have all my respect and praise. I am so glad you are doing great as a father. Wishing happy fathers day to my ex-husband!
“I may not have been happy to have a husband like you but our children are certainly blessed to have a dad like you…. Happy Father’s Day!!!”
On the occasion of fathers day, wishing happy fathers day to my ex-hubby who is a profound father and a wonderful friend to his kids. May you create heaps of entrancing moments with kids!
Every kid needs a strong and protective father as he needs a caring and compassionate mother. I am glad you are living up to the role of a father so well. Wishing happy fathers day to my ex-husband!
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